In this series, I have been exploring traditional marriage vows and their relevance to us today. Where do they come from? What is their meaning? Is the meaning still relevant to us today in the context of any relationship? In...Continue reading
The 5 Love Languages Simply Put
One of the biggest issues I am faced within the course of online couples therapy is that of love being ineffectively expressed, and so inadequately received by each partner in the relationship. This disconnect can leave us feeling unloved and...Continue reading
For better, for worse: Exploring commitment & attitude in marriage
In this series, I have been exploring. Where do they come from? What is their meaning? Is the meaning still relevant to us today in the context of any relationship? In this last installment, I explore the final words uttered...Continue reading
To have and to hold vow: Intimacy & Relationship in Marriage
This is the first in a series of posts that explores the marriage vows we pledge to our partners when we take the plunge into marriage. I don’t use the term ‘plunge’ lightly, because, for most people, marriage is not...Continue reading
‘Love’
This sculpture is one designed by Ukrainian Alexander Milov, and its purpose is to demonstrate what’s going on inside of people when we fight. It represents 2 people with their backs to one another in what can be assumed to...Continue reading
The love we think we deserve
I recently read a book in which this quote featured, “We accept the love we think we deserve”. Relatively simple, absolutely profound. In these few words, so much of human nature is explained; in particular, the reason why people stick...Continue reading
Fickle Feelings
I’m sure just about everyone is familiar with this picture, or the premise behind it – your reality and mine are different; different doesn’t necessarily mean wrong. Right? While it is true that our own expectations, perspectives, and experiences shape...Continue reading
Festive Stress
“‘Tis the season to be jolly…” And indeed, there is much jollification to be had during the Christmas season. However, sometimes the wonder of this time gets lost in all the hustle and bustle, and it ends up being a...Continue reading
New Year, New Me – And Why This Hardly Ever Works
I’m sure we have all, at one time or another, made the famous New Years’ Resolution/s… With very few exceptions, these resolutions never work out. And while the picture above is meant to be humorous, it is in fact scarily...Continue reading
Forsaking all others…
In this, the penultimate installation of my ‘Wedding Vows’ series, I explore infidelity. This is the vow that I see broken most often in my couples counselling, and the result of it is really heartbreaking. We pledge to forsake ALL...Continue reading